What could matter more than sharing and celebrating the unlimited love, happiness and peace ever-present in every moment? Yet you may wonder: how can what is unlimited and ever-present seem to come and go? Welcome to the heart of Clear Lens Coaching.
Experience is determined by the lens we see through. It’s not what we’re looking at, but where we’re looking from. Simply said: experience conforms to the view.
The view – made of beliefs, assumptions or concepts – is typically distorted. How can you know that? Because it hurts and you suffer. The idea that something is lacking or wrong sets us on a journey to fix ourselves, others or situations. You spin your wheels and struggle to find relief from tension and pain. There’s another option: turn around and investigate the lens itself.
Clear Lens Coaching is an alternative to traditional marriage counseling, therapy and relationship or life coaching. Rather than try to change yourself or find answers “out there,” we explore the lens. Your concerns, ideas, feelings and habits become springboards for this sincere investigation. Inquiry allows knots of tension to dissolve, naturally. Humor and gratitude prevail. Intelligent action replaces painful, automatic pattern of re-action.
Clear Lens Coaching isn’t pie-in-the-sky psycho-babble. The conversations are uncommon, though the work is down to earth and practical to boot.
The difference between a clear and a distorted lens is inestimable.
Ironically, the love, happiness and peace we long for is veiled by the attempt to find these innate treasures elsewhere. When activities and relationships aren’t used to fill yourself up, they become vehicles to share and rejoice in what’s already yours. Love, happiness and peace have never gone anywhere. The most important thing is to find out for yourself.
Clear Lens Coaching for Couples & Individuals
Who: My clients are single, married, separated, undecided, divorced, re-partnered and widowed, with diverse sexual orientations, from all walks of life. Some have considerable experience with personal development and/or spirituality – some none at all. Some have worked with therapists, relationship or marriage counselors, or life coaches – some never. No matter who you are, curiosity and willingness are the essential keys that open the door to a vibrant collaboration.
Getting Started: I offer a 75-minute initial consultation for couples and individuals. You’ll get an in-depth feel for the work itself, how well matched we are, and how I can serve you. You’ll take potent questions and fresh insights to reflect on after our initial meeting.
People who see me for a consultation often choose to continue in a Clear Lens Coaching program and schedule a 12-session series, which is the way I begin with people I’m working with for the first time. Continuation after 12 sessions is always an option for my clients. Fees, scheduling and other particulars are discussed during the consultation.
I bring a high level of engagement to the work to my clients. They appreciate post-appointment emails in which I share reflections, poetry, TED talks, videos and other relevant resources that encourage reflection.
Where: I have a lovely, quiet office located in walking distance to downtown Bend, Oregon. For people who live at a distance, I offer in-person intensives or retreats, and phone or Zoom appointments.
Poetry Playshops & More!
A dedicated Poetry and Creativity Instigator, I facilitate monthly Poetry Playshops in Bend for unabashed creative expression. Additional Playshop events and retreats are scheduled through the year.
You may want to recover the freedom to play or immerse more deeply an already active creative process. Participants routinely say they feel relieved of tension to perform, produce, or otherwise impress anyone. Very liberating, indeed! Subscribe to my monthly newsletter to be in the know about all events.
Another wonderful way to connect is through the Poem of the Month, which I’ve been publishing since 2006. Subscribe to have these gems delivered to your inbox monthly.
Host a Playshop For Your Group Or Organization!
I love working with groups and do so in ways that maximize flow and spontaneity while reducing self-consciousness. Superb for work teams, book clubs, staff meetings, board meetings, retreats and special occasions. I’d love to collaborate with you and create a relaxed space for engagement, authenticity, depth and humor.
Connect with me and we’ll have a wonderful time discussing the details!
Image: Qian Xuan, Early Autumn