The lens we look through shapes every experience of our lives, without exception. What happens when the lens is distorted and how do our perceptions get clarified? Exploring this essential question is at the heart of Clear Lens Coaching.
Imagine you’ve been wearing blue tinted sunglasses and don’t know it. You visit an art gallery. People are excited by the rich colors in a painting. You squint, move closer, then further away. No matter what you do, all you see is blue. What are all these colors people rave about? You wonder what’s wrong with you. There’s nothing wrong with you.
Because it’s not what you’re looking at, it’s where you’re looking from. If the lens is distorted, so is the view.
For instance, if you believe you aren’t enough, nothing you do will ever be enough. If you’re convinced your partner manipulates you, you’ll be suspicious of everything she or he does. If you think money is security, you’ll always feel threatened by market fluctuations. Experience conforms to the lens through which you see. This is an innocent yet painful limitation.
The most wrenching lens is that lasting happiness, love and peace will be found in relationships, activities, and circumstances. You can look far and wide for the right partner, more money, better self-esteem, a spiritual teacher, but until you investigate the nature of the lens, it will always seem like something is wrong or lacking. So now what?
Stop trying to alter people and things outside yourself. Instead, turn attention to the lens itself.
The uncommon conversations that characterize Clear Lens Coaching allow for a unique, compassionate exploration in which you get to question the “fact-like” quality of your beliefs, viewpoints, perspectives or ideas. As distortions clear, so does the nature of experience. The way you see changes. You discover a fresh world. Such clarity is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself.
You can recover your openness to life. You can come close to others out of genuine intimacy and love, rather than wearisome need and anxiety.
Is it time to cleanse your lens? Contact me. I’d love to hear from you!
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